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Parents Blog

Susan Boyd blogs on every Monday. A dedicated mother and wife, Susan offers a truly unique perspective into the world of a "Soccer Mom." 
Opinions expressed on the US Youth Soccer Blog are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the positions of US Youth Soccer.


Losing Attitude

Susan Boyd

After every televised sporting competition, there’s the ritual of a Q&A. That consists of either a 6-foot-3 athlete bending over a 5-foot-2 reporter while awkwardly responding to a query amidst a jumble of noise and celebration, or the same athlete behind a bank of microphones in a more civilized atmosphere of a press conference. In either case, the questions are general, rhetorical and expected, with only a small variation between those aimed at victors and those aimed at the defeated. “How did you feel when the last second shot (fell or didn’t fall)? What do you attribute the (win or loss) to? How do you plan to (celebrate or regroup)? What was the turning point of the game? When did you know you were going to (win or lose)? Who do you feel most contributed to the (win or loss)? What would you have done differently? Why did you go with that (amazing or disastrous) play?” You know the drill. You could ask the questions and answer them as well. So why do networks insist on these post-mortems? I’d argue they want to sustain the euphoria of a win for the fans and to extend the humiliation of a loss, which adds drama to the proceedings. That was clearly evident in Cam Newton’s press conference after the Panthers lost to the Broncos in last weekend’s Super Bowl.

On display was a 26-year-old who had won nearly every contest he ever entered. He had just earned the NFL MVP award. He had been a No. 1 draft pick. This season he was responsible for 45 touchdowns and more rushing yards than every teammate except Jonathan Stewart. He led the Panthers to a 15-1 regular season. He relished the winning with boyish enthusiasm, well-known for his sideline antics. With all this success, he had seen the peak of Everest only to have a sudden storm out of Denver cut his ascent short. Now he had to slump in a chair, a hoodie obscuring much of his head, and answer the ridiculous questions of reporters who already knew the answers. “Can you put a finger on why Carolina didn’t play the way it normally plays?” “Got outplayed.” “Is there a reason why?” “Got outplayed, bro.” “Can you put into words the disappointment you feel right now?” “We lost.” When disappointment was brought up yet again, it was too much. Cam shook his head, said “I’m done, man,” and walked out. Watching Cam squirm, visibly upset, looking every bit like the kid called into the principal’s office to explain why he pulled the fire alarm during the school assembly, I couldn’t help but see my own sons in him.

Frequently as parents, we attempt to analyze a loss right after a match, usually on the car ride home. The conversation is filled with “if onlys,” and we ask our young player to explain the setbacks, unwittingly rubbing salt in the wounds. We’ve all seen that dejected hang-dog look on our child’s face when he or she just wants to melt into the upholstery and try to escape the bad feelings. Yet all too often we become that hungry press corps demanding answers to questions better left unspoken. We’re disappointed and we’re trying to make sense of what just happened. Unfortunately, we end up expecting our kids to do it for us.

What can make the situation worse is when the questions carry the sting of accusation. “Why didn’t you pass the ball when you got trapped?” “Didn’t you see Heather was open to take a shot?” “Did the coach tell you to hang back instead of staying with your opponent?” “Why didn’t you make a four-man wall?”  We don’t mean the questions to be critical, but the tone is clear as they ring in the kids’ ears. The last thing they want to do is try to defend a mistake or revisit a missed opportunity. Yet we do ask the worst possible questions at the worst possible time. Robbie used to come off the field, brush past us, and announce “I don’t want to talk about it.” We learned we ignored that admonishment at our peril!

There were lots of questions after the Super Bowl that I’m sure many viewers wanted answers. News organizations survive by “breaking the story first.” No one is willing to wait for explanations. In a family, though, there’s no such pressure. We can let the analysis evolve when our player is ready to talk. Usually Robbie or Bryce would be silent for about half the trip the home, but eventually they would spout something that let us know they wanted to vent. “I can’t believe I missed that shot,” or “I knew he was going left why did I fade right?” Even when the door is opened, parents don’t have to rush through. Kids need the chance to process what happened, to create their own story, and to be comfortable with their vision. Losing is an important part of the learning process. It’s not fun, and can be very painful, but when kids learn their own best coping techniques, every subsequent loss is better handled. Constant queries and post-game analyses don’t give our kids the space they need to absorb and deal with loss. If they continuously feel solely responsible for or accused of creating a defeat, they become personally defeated and may want to quit. After a loss during the State Championship, Bryce’s coach read the team such a litany of blame that the kids exited the field looking shell-shocked. Three kids quit the team that day, which left us vulnerable for another loss in the next game. Bryce still talks about that dressing down he got (and as goalkeeper, he was particularly singled out). I give him a lot of credit for sticking with both the team and with soccer because those players were doubly humiliated – first by the actual loss and then by their coach pointing out all their short-comings just minutes after leaving the pitch.

Losses can become watershed moments for players in either a positive or negative way. It’s important that losses be seen not as irreparable events but as building blocks. Even Cam Newton acknowledged to the press and the fans that Carolina would be “back.” Kids need to put losses in perspective. In every contest there is a winner and loser, that’s the very essence of sport. The point is not to blame losses on particular people or decisions, rather it’s to find those instances where changes can happen. Coaches should approach losses with the attitude of “let’s see how we can avoid the pitfalls of this match again” by presenting a plan for attacking the next contest through training and development. Parents need to avoid pinning kids down to addressing particular mistakes so that they become defensive and unsure. Instead we can be the cheerleaders we should be and leave the training and any criticism to the coaches. Stick to positives: “Your team wasn’t afraid to keep shooting. We were so proud of how the team kept fighting. Those forwards were fast but you kept up with them really well. The midfield is definitely learning how to work together; I see so much improvement.” Let our kids decide when they want to talk about concerns and let them ask the questions, revealing to us how much or how little advice they want. It’s okay to be disappointed about a loss, that’s only natural, but to use a loss to express criticism isn’t what our kids need. If we can lose the negative attitude towards losing we’ll have a positive impact our own child’s attitude.

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Skipping Ahead

Susan Boyd

Few of us can be faulted for seeing our pint-sized soccer dynamos as the next Abby Wambach or Landon Donovan. They look so fierce and dedicated as they scoot up and down the pitch mastering the moves they watch their much older idols executing. We naturally see all kinds of promise in their skills and passion. Since youth soccer has a focus on development, the players advance slowly within a prescribed series of team and field size increases in tandem with incremental skills training. It’s likely that as our kids progress we may become impatient with the developmental program. We decide that they are ready for a bigger challenge. So the issue of our children playing up a year or two surfaces regularly. US Youth Soccer Director of Coaching Sam Snow addressed this topic in a 2010 blog. He came at it from a coaching perspective and had several good points, which I’ll summarize here. However, I can also speak to the subject from a parent’s point of view. What’s important to remember is that moving a player or a team ahead has to offer significant improvements over the system in place and has to have the full agreement of club, coaches, parents, and in particular the player.

As Snow detailed, challenging players and teams will always be a goal of state associations, the US Youth Soccer Olympic Development Program and clubs. Associations should not be so dogmatic as to restrict a player’s “option to play at the appropriate competitive level.” He argues rightly that development requires players “be exposed to levels of competition commensurate with their skills…in order to aspire to higher levels of play and maintain their interest in and passion for the game.” However, the process of development created and approved by the United States Soccer Federation came from long and careful study of how to best develop soccer players and teams. Parents need to appreciate the value of these development programs and not always be in a rush to bypass the process since it could be detrimental to the child’s progress. Likewise organizations should not insist on a “one size fits all” system which limits the strongest players from advancing to the proper level of competition and training. Playing up should be an option, exercised with proper evaluation by coaches and parents.

Furthermore, kids may not need to play up in order to achieve the benefits of advanced training. Clubs can do more open training that shifts players around during practice giving kids a chance to test their abilities in a safer environment than in games against older, more skilled players. It also gives coaches an opportunity to evaluate a player’s readiness to play up. Snow places the responsibility for the “development of players and advancement of the overall quality in the United States” on the youth coaches, administrators and policymakers. It is their “obligation to provide an environment where every player is given the opportunity to improve and to gain the maximum enjoyment from their soccer experience and ultimately, what is best for the player.” On the flip side, parents can be advocates for their children’s talents, but should also defer to the judgment of those long trained in the recognition, development, and promotion of youth players.

One solution that Coach Snow offers is for “club (playing) passes” rather than team rosters. This allows coaches to slowly introduce players to higher levels of competition without overtaxing them or risking injury when they go up against bigger, more aggressive opponents. As he puts it, it “allow(s) for a more realistic and fluid movement of players between teams and levels of play.” It’s also a system that helps reduce the overall resentment of a player being singled out to play for an older team or a player having to permanently leave his or her circle of friends to play up. In general, the discussion of whether or not a child plays up should be initiated by the coach, not by the parent. Most coaches are actually motivated to move players to the highest levels they can play. However, Coach Snow also cautions coaches not to “exploit or hold players back in the misplaced quest for team building and winning championships.” He asks parents not push their child. Playing up may not preclude returning to an age-appropriate team, which “should not be interpreted as a demotion, but as an opportunity to gain or regain confidence.”  This entire situation is best handled by the “club pass” option since it does make playing up a flexible process that doesn’t imply a “final” placement. Instead, players are given opportunities to stretch their soccer abilities with less risk and more support leading to stronger skills and mental focus.

Playing up has long been a tradition in soccer. Many of the most famous professional players began playing on adult teams while still in high school. On the other hand, there are plenty of examples of players achieving at the highest levels of the sport but doing so on the regular developmental track. Climbing to the top of the “soccer pyramid” doesn’t have to happen right away for a player to achieve long-term success. There are a huge number of factors to consider before playing up. Kids develop physically at far different rates at the same age. Therefore, a player may be quite skilled, but coaches are reluctant to move her up because she is small for her age. Playing against much larger opponents could result in injuries that have career-shortening effects. Likewise, that player may become so overwhelmed that he or she loses confidence, a mental state that directly affects play. Coaches will also consider how much support the player will get from other team members, which will influence team dynamics and the player’s adjustment. If the team has weak tactics, they may not be the best place for a player to develop. Finally, players do become attached to their teammates, so playing up with kids who have a different maturity level could be isolating for a player, affecting both mental and physical development. Coaches can best evaluate this during practices and with players filling an occasional “guest player” slot.

As a parent with sons who played up, I can attest to both the advantages and disadvantages of the opportunity. I primarily caution parents against rushing the process. We always have the option of having our children try out for older teams, especially if we feel our club is holding our child back. However, be sure it’s for the right reasons and most importantly that the player is fully on board. Kids can easily get overwhelmed by the bigger, more mature, more skilled teammates of an older team, even if they are perfectly capable of playing at that level. The first time Robbie played up was when his entire team registered in a U-12 league while only U-10 so that they could play 11v11 on a full field. The experience was generally positive. The kids didn’t win many games, but they definitely learned how to trust one another, refine their team tactics, and enjoy just playing because wins were basically off the table. By the time the team grew into being a true U-12 team, it was so strong that the players found success as a team — eventually winning state. They learned to delay gratification, so the experience went beyond just soccer. Even today, Robbie is really good about being patient for things to come his way, and I chalk that up to two years of slogging away towards a team goal of eventually being one of the strongest in the league. However, as a freshman in high school, Robbie was the first starting freshman on the varsity soccer team in 20 years. It was a tremendous honor but came with some difficulties. Most of the players were all driving and Robbie was two years away from getting a license. It also meant most of the players were partaking in far more “adult” get-togethers, which included alcohol. Finally, there was strong jealousy from players and parents that Robbie has “stolen” a slot from deserving upperclassmen. Luckily, his older brother was the goalkeeper on the team, so Robbie had support. Also, he’s just a likable guy, so eventually he won over the team. But it was isolating and frustrating for him on many occasions. All of his friends either played for the freshman or JV team. Their games were during the afternoons when Robbie was practicing with the varsity team so he couldn’t even attend to support his buddies.

Likewise, Robbie was not allowed to even try out for the older team on the two main clubs in our area because their teams at Robbie’s age level were not strong. They wanted Robbie to play age appropriately to strengthen those teams, something Snow counsels against. That was frustrating for him because his high school teammates were on the older teams, and he wanted to continue those connections. Nevertheless, it didn’t stop these teams from asking Robbie to guest play with them when they were short-handed for tournaments. Playing up has political elements, which can’t be ignored. Parents need to recognize how that will impact their family and especially their player. That’s why I’m so in favor of the “club pass” system. It removes much of the “gifted” aura attached to playing up and puts it in the right perspective – an opportunity for any player to test his or her abilities.

In Bryce’s case, playing up was completely positive. His U-14 club team dissolved just before U15 tryouts. As a goalkeeper he had very few options where he could play. Luckily, a U-16 Serbian team desperately needed a keeper, so Bryce found a wonderful home. He knew several of the players from his high school team and he loved the chance to test his keeper abilities against bigger and faster players because the entire U-16 team was actually playing up in a U-17 league. He got early exposure to college scouts, stepped up his game significantly, and made a whole new set of friends. Luckily, Bryce was fully grown at 6-foot-2 and 190 pounds. so he had no problem keeping up with the players on his team and in the league. For him, the opportunity had huge benefits, and were every players’ case like his, I’d be on board for widespread playing up. However, he never faced any of the resentment from parents for gaining a place on a more elite team because no one was left to care. His size afforded him the safety to play up. And finally, he was psychologically ready for the challenge.

The younger a player is, the more difficult it is to play up. We parents need to remember that our big kid at U-8 may end up a comparatively small kid the next year due to the uneven physical development of young players. Therefore, playing up may seem like a good idea that quickly dissolves. Again, we parents shouldn’t be in a rush to have our kids scaling the pyramid too quickly. Small-sided games at the youngest ages allows kids more playing time and an opportunity to try out a variety of positions. Moving through the well-studied and approved levels of development serves the majority of kids to keep them growing their skills and their passion while still challenging them. There is such a thing as a “soccer brain” and kids with a well-developed one are the best equipped to play up, but they have to be supported by their physical size, the ability to take coaching, their compatibility with teammates, and their maturity to handle the increased pressures. Parents aren’t always the best and most unbiased judges of these factors. We need to depend on coaches to make decisions on a child’s readiness to play up. If a coach opens the conversation, we should feel free to jump in, but on the whole we should not be aggressive advocates for our child playing up. Rather we should talk with coaches at the end of a season to discuss our kids’ progress and possible proficiency to play up in the future. The discussion should dissolve into an argument to persuade a coach, rather it should be the time to listen and learn how our children are seen in a coach’s eyes. Once we have that information we can decide how to proceed going forward. Should our child tryout for an older team? Does our child want to play up? How will playing up impact our family (loss of friends, jealousies, car pool disruptions, and unknown territory)? What are we expecting playing up to achieve for our kids (improved skills, praise, future success, and/or bragging rights)?  Is our child prepared to play up in every aspect (size, temperament, maturity, and skills)? Once we assess these factors and fold in coaches’ recommendations, we can best decide if playing up is right for our sons and daughters.

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United States Olympic Committee ADM

Sam Snow

A couple of weeks ago I attended a meeting held by the coaching education department of the United States Olympic Committee. The meeting was held at the wonderful facilities at the University of Delaware.  Dr. Matt Robinson hosted the two day meetings.  Dr. Robinson teaches at the university as a Professor of Sport Management, Director of the Sport Management Program, Director of Sport Research, Center for Applied Business and Economic Research (CABER), Chairman of the Delaware Sport Commission, Director for the International Coaching Enrichment Certificate Program (ICECP) at the Alfred Lerner College of Business and Economics. 

These national organizations took part in the meetings.

National Governing Body (NGB)

Lakeshore Foundation


University of Delaware

US Lacrosse

US Tennis Association

US Youth Soccer

U.S. Figure Skating

U.S. Paralympics Alpine Skiing

U.S. Ski and Snowboard Association

U.S. Soccer Federation

USA Curling

USA Diving

USA Fencing

USA Football

USA Hockey

USA Swimming

USA Triathlon

USA Wrestling

USA Ultimate

USA Volleyball



The following topics were covered during the meetings.


Various NGBs

NGBs will present short 15-20 minute presentations that outline what they have been doing around LTAD/ADM and look to gain feedback and spark questions from peers.

GOAL: Share what many are doing and gather information for all to use.


Matt Robinson, Professor – Sport Management

A presentation on the research and case study findings when club sports programs around the US were interviewed and analyzed for how they are utilizing LTAD/ADM concepts to grow their brand, retention and profits in the club arena of sports.

GOAL: To explore the business benefits of LTAD/ADM and see how the public sector is using the science to profit.


Matt Robinson, Moderator

3 sport club program administrators/coaches will join for a panel discussion around how they are using LTAD/ADM in real life and being successful. Will be an opportunity to talk to programs in the field that are the target of our sports.

Goal: Q and A with organizations and gather feedback around how they are or would use, profiting, and growing their sport with the concepts. Explore what REAL APPLICATION of the concepts really looks like in the US.

Sport Sampling, Multisport and Talent Development

Scott Riewald, USOC High Performance Director

Group discussion lead by Scott Riewald of the USOC High Performance staff. Taking a look at where sport sampling, multisport play and talent development really stand in our sports organizations. Discussion will revolve around how do these ideas and concepts get presented to the public and used in a manner that benefits the athlete’s future, the NGB and our own sport promotions.



Breakout topics will be circulated and groups will be formed. Groups will then break out to work together around topic and discussion areas that will then get reported back to the full group at the end of the session. Paralympic NGB representatives will work together in a breakout group as well around their own specific topics.


Chris Snyder, USOC Director of Coaching

Group will brainstorm and work through conversation topics form the workshop, to identify key next steps, resources and universal assets that NGBs and the USOC would like to see produced, in order to advance the ADM/LTAD concepts in the US.

Goal: Come away with action items, resource needs and any additional requests for success in the future.

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Packing It All In

Susan Boyd

Spring break is fast approaching. Not fast enough for our kids, who believe winter break was eons ago, but for us parents who have to deal with travel plans it’s coming far too soon. Many soccer clubs attend major tournaments in the weeks before, during, and after spring break — creating significant headaches for families. In the first place, all of our children seem to have completely different vacation schedules. Even within the same school district, dates can vary. Parents are put in the position of having to decide if a family trip to Florida or Texas or California for one child’s tournament trumps perfect attendance for all the siblings. That quandary is only compounded if more than one child has a tournament and they are in different states. To save money we may decide to drive, but that also adds days on to the trip making it more likely that our children will be missing school. Naturally, the travel is during peak season, so everything from planes to hotels to meals to rental cars has a premium attached. Getting soccer bags to their destination can cost extra as well. The trip will be fun, the tournament most likely satisfying, but the planning and sacrifices are gruesome.

Going to a match at home is fairly easy. Usually the car is already packed with what’s needed, so we just arrive at the field, unload our gear, and settle in to watch. The events are the same at an away tournament, but the logistics are quite different. Even if we drive to the tournament, we need cargo space for luggage, coolers, possibly even air mattresses and sleeping bags. We need to consolidate and plan carefully. What I have discovered is that there is an inverse relationship between the distance we have to travel for a tournament and the amenities available at the tournament. For example, many of venues lack bleachers. Lugging soccer chairs onto a plane isn’t possible these days and usually soccer chairs are the first thing thrown out of the trunk when pressed for storage space. This is just a tiny sliver of what we face in our planning. Our decisions haven long-term impacts. Do we sacrifice school, budget and family vacation for a tournament? What mode of transportation should we use? How do we realistically accommodate all our gear?

The first question can only be answered by each family. My advice comes from straddling the dual roles of teacher and parent, but has to be viewed through the lens of each person’s experience. As a teacher, I absolutely hate when students miss class. I teach using collaboration in small groups, and when group members are missing, things fall apart. However, I am guilty as a parent of letting my boys miss a day or two of school in order to accommodate an away tournament. So I accept the title of “hypocrite” reluctantly, but honestly. In general I expected my sons to keep up their grades and if they faltered then the opportunity to miss school for soccer flew out the window. I’d advise that standard as a good measure of whether or not to extend a vacation. One piece of advice from the teacher side of things:  teachers don’t appreciate a parent asking them to “put together” a package of assignments when a child is skipping school. It’s rubbing salt in the wounds, and not a good plan for getting teachers on your side. It’s lots of extra work, and when several students ask, it’s a ton of extra work. In this age of electronics, internet, and easy transference of data, ask a fellow student to record lectures and send on assignments via email. Schools usually have a “firm” policy about taking off days before and after scheduled breaks, but they also have to be pragmatic. Families are scattered around the country due to job relocations, retirements, health concerns, and marriages. Vacations are peak times so have premium prices. Therefore families can be forgiven for looking for a financial break by scheduling travel during less expensive times. From experience I know the best approach is forewarning teachers and schools of your plans but not asking for special treatment. Luckily many tournaments are in great family vacation locales, so bringing along the troupe and having a lark of it makes sense. Usually you’ll only have one game a day, so there will be plenty of time to swim, explore, and have adventures. Thinking outside the box can provide some great savings. Our club would book with condo associations at several of the tournament locations, which gave us huge apartments for less than hotel rooms and some great amenities such as reduced greens fees for golf and a variety of pools. Resort locations usually have dozens of condo rooms available for rent, especially in those warm weather destination states. So check out those possibilities. We could often accommodate six boys in one room and had the use of kitchens to reduce food costs as well.

Deciding between driving, flying, or other transportation means juggling several options. If you drive you can save the costs of rental cars at your destination, but you will also put wear and tear on your vehicle, as well as adding days to the travel. The advantage of driving will be that you can get gear down to the tournament without much difficulty. Since so many airlines charge for checked baggage, you’ll need to factor in that expense. Some clubs will rent 15 passenger vans, but that means that families can’t join in easily. Lower gas prices allow driving to become more cost effective, especially the more passengers involved. You might even consider sharing the driving so you can motor straight through, saving a motel cost on the way. Caravanning can make the journey safer, allowing for support during the trip. I really suggest making the small investment in a AAA membership which will provide for roadside assistance, maps, and travel advisories. If your family can’t join the adventure, consider creating “team” families where those traveling take along those whose parents and siblings can’t come. If you travel by plane, check on group rates, which can be much cheaper. Most airlines will gladly accommodate your group if you plan far enough ahead. Likewise, rental car companies will provide a group rate if you promise a rental car offices that aren’t associated with an airport, rates are generally lower, sometimes even half of what you’re charged when you rent at the airport. So check their websites for locations in the city or even in the suburbs. Don’t forget about trains and buses. They can have some attractive rates if you are going from one major metropolitan location to another. The main problem is transfers to different lines can be inconvenient, but packing and shipping are much easier than by plane.

When it comes to getting your gear to a tournament, that task poses some big problems, even if you’re driving. Soccer bags are notoriously bulky. Cleats seem to explode, balls can actually explode in the changing pressure of an airliner, you need both a home and an away kit, and there’s socks, shin guards, and gloves to pile on. Then there’s the weeks’ worth of clothing, toiletries, and shoes to match. Coaches will want to bring along practice supplies, extra balls, and additional equipment. Airlines have made it more and more difficult to check unusual items due to safety and inconvenience so that baggage comes with additional costs. Forget about bringing along the soccer chairs, even umbrellas. You can purchase inexpensive things once you arrive at the tournament, but who wants the additional cost and then the waste when those items get tossed. Walk across tournament fields on the last day and you’ll seen garbage bins filled with chairs, umbrellas, and canopies. Sometimes located by the big box stores where you buy your items will be a donation bin for Goodwill, Salvation Army, or St. Vincent DePaul, which is a better way to dispose of this gear. I’ve found a great substitute at many of the sports stores such as Dick’s or Sports Authority which are very stable folding stools small enough to pack in a suitcase. They run around $19 and come with carrying straps. They will support up to 250 lbs. and are comfortable enough for a 90 minute match. I truly recommend them for travel, and they fit well in a car trunk, not taking up too much space. Collapsible travel umbrellas are great, however, look for ones that have a UV rating which mean they protect you from the sun. Which brings up another significant issue when traveling. With airline restrictions, it’s often difficult to transport sunscreen, bug spray, and lotion. So those are items you could purchase at your destination, but you will probably end up tossing much of these. Therefore, I suggest buying some 3 oz. travel bottles. Even if you check these items, you risk them leaking. So be sure to put all liquids in sealed plastic bags. There are some very nice protective bags you can buy from a luggage store or online travel gear web sites. Finally if you fly, let the air out of the soccer balls and bring along a hand pump to inflate them since changes in cabin pressure can cause balls to expand and put stress on the seams.

I’m a big advocate of away tournaments because they expand the pool of competition which is exciting for teams to test themselves against and provide some interesting locations to explore. Therefore, I think missing a few days of school if the player is keeping up with his or studies can be excused in order to have an out-of-classroom lesson. It’s difficult to balance all the factors of school, budget, family time, and team loyalty, but sometimes you do have to say no. In that case you don’t need to make excuses or feel guilty. Sports are ultimately an extra in life and shouldn’t put a family in debt or place a student behind in studies. You may get some pressure, but you have to do what is best for your situation, not for everyone else’s. When you do make the decision to attend a tournament, then you can work with others to make the trip as reasonable and unobtrusive as feasible. When possible, help out other team members by sharing a room or a ride to make the trip affordable for everyone. One of the great perks of playing a team sport is the opportunity to visit different locations, cultures, and geographies while competing. Taking advantage of these opportunities adds to our children’s life experiences, so they can be worth a few sacrifices and inconviences.

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