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Susan Boyd blogs on USYouthSoccer.org every Monday.  A dedicated mother and wife, Susan offers a truly unique perspective into the world of a "Soccer Mom". 

 

Camp Roulette - Thinking about Summer Camps

Susan Boyd

While I am celebrating the thermometer's rise to 41 degrees, I have to do so amidst snow and ice covering the major portion of the landscape. So it's difficult to think about filling out the summer camp applications. But they are already arriving. I have had three come via email and another two come in snail mail, so the floodgates should be opening soon. Even if you are experienced in sorting through the possibilities, they seem to multiply exponentially. Suddenly that simple decision that you based on cost and dates now explodes into manifold factors from skill levels to friends attending to coaching levels. We don't want our kids to miss out on that "once-in-a-lifetime" opportunity that might mean being scouted by an English Premier League coach or recruited by a top college program.
         
The first thing anyone should do is decide on a budget then rule out any camp that exceeds that budget. It's so easy to be seduced by a glossy brochure with pictures of happy players against a rich green pitch gazing fondly at a silver-haired coach who looks like he comes from central casting. It makes us wish we could go to camp and let the kids stay home. Declaring a budget also makes it clear to your children that they can't ask for pipe dreams – camps in Argentina or becoming a youth soccer ambassador to New Zealand. If an international camp appeals to your family but you can't afford it now, those options are available every year, so make a plan about how to save for this goal. Decide how much your child will be responsible for. You could do a matching fund where every dollar your kid saves you'll match. You also could involve grandparents to pledge some money towards this opportunity. However you choose to finance the expensive camps, it's not a bad idea to ask your child to invest in the expense as well.
         
Once you have the budget, then you can start deciding on the type of camp you want to attend. The options are overwhelming. Besides the opportunity to play soccer out of the country, there are camps dedicated to specific field positions, camps for boys only, camps for girls only, camps directed by famous coaches, camps sponsored by local clubs, camps sponsored by colleges, high schools, and civic organizations, overnight camps, day camps, camps offered by professional teams, camps that provide the opportunity to be looked at by overseas coaches, camps run by former National Team players, camps promising college scholarships, nutrition camps, camps sponsored by sportswear manufacturers, camps sponsored by sports drinks and camps that focus on fitness. You and your child need to decide what you want from a camp in order to narrow down where you apply. Make a list of what your ideal camp experience would be, and then pour through the options to find the best matches.
         
For those in elementary and middle school the local camps usually offer the best matches. You can use summer camps as a way to check out other clubs in the area or keep a strong tie to your present club. Most US Youth Soccer Association state association websites will provide a list of camps offered by member clubs. This is a great resource to begin your search. You can also use a search engine to locate local camps by searching your city and the phrase "summer soccer camps." If you are lucky enough to have a professional soccer club in your area then check out their camps. These camps are usually staffed by high school and college age soccer players, but include one or two professional players. It's great fun for a young player to have an idol teaching her how to dribble a ball! These camps can provide a T-shirt, ball, and water bottle emblazoned with the team logo, so there's some long term bragging rights attached to the experience. Both my boys grew up spending summers at the Milwaukee WAVE camps, and now my grandkids have continued the tradition.
         
The other factor for the youngest campers will be friends. Check out with other families where they are considering sending their kids. It's always the most fun to share a camp with good buddies, plus it helps with carpooling! Some parents also may have some good advice on camps based on experiences with their older kids. Use the sideline time this spring to find out what camps they liked or didn't like and why. Personal testimony beats the marketing blurbs in the brochures. 
         
Check out some of the intangibles with camps as well. For example do the camps have contingency plans for bad weather, especially thunderstorms?   What process do they use to contact parents in case of emergency? What is the ratio of staff to campers? What insurance do they carry for both liability and injury? How long has the camp been running? What is their policy on weather-related cancellations? Do they address the issue of differing skill levels at the same ages? Is the camp a member of any recreational organization or licensed by any organization? How is their staff screened?   What safety does the camp provide at its site (i.e. fences separating fields from busy roads or water features)? Do they offer any credits or reimbursement for unforeseen reasons to miss the camp (death in the family, extended illness)? Can they deal with medical conditions such as asthma attacks and allergic reactions?
         
For older campers the situation becomes less about finding a camp that offers fun with friends and more about finding a camp that can advance a player's abilities. The big question for most high school players is whether or not they should attend a college camp in the hopes of being recruited. College camps can be very expensive and are filled with hundreds of campers hoping for the same brass ring. My experience has been that few if any kids are "discovered" at a college camp. Most coaches rely on watching players at tournaments in the context of their teams to make decisions on players they want to recruit. Often players who have contacted a school receive an invitation to their camp.   Don't read too much into this. Every player who has ever emailed a coach has had his or her email placed in a mailing list for camp. On the other hand, if a player has been in serious discussions directly with a coach, initiated by the coach, who asks the player to attend the camp, it might be worth attending. You'll have to judge how serious the coach's interest is and how the expense fits into your family's budget. On the other hand, I do encourage good players to consider attending college sponsored camps because they can give you exposure to the level of play necessary to succeed at college and if the camp includes more than one college, then you'll get a bigger bang for your buck.
         
Older players should also consider camps that focus on fitness training. While developing skills and improving on team tactics remains the primary reason for going to a summer camp, players can benefit from training that isn't soccer centered. Most coaches will agree that teams that have the best fitness have the best chance to get that late game goal or prevent one. It's the players who falter over time due to lack of conditioning who hurt a team's ability to be a winner. Therefore, a fitness or conditioning camp may be a good idea. These should be reserved for older players since younger players don't have the muscle development to endure and benefit from intense fitness training. But supplementing a skills camp with a fitness camp could be a great way to prepare for an upcoming high school or club soccer season.
         
No matter what you decide to do about camps, just be sure that you select a camp that fits the needs of your child. Don't pick a camp that demands too much from your player. The younger the child, the more the camp should focus on fun and spending some carefree time with friends, new and old.  Older players will want to use camps to advance both their skills and their chances to play soccer at a higher level. So decide what benefits the camps offer and how those benefits justify the costs. Most importantly make sure that your child is comfortable with the camp choice. If kids have fears of being away from home, you might not want to leap into an overnight camp right away or if they do better with shorter bursts of instruction consider half-day camps. Use the internet, the parent's network, and brochures at your local soccer store to discover the variety of camps available in your area. Investigate the college, club, and professional club camps that number in the thousands. After all your considerations the most important one will be is the camp enjoyable for your child. The rest will all fall in place.
 

Anything You Can Do My Kid Can Do Better

Susan Boyd

Trust Hollywood to not only pick up on but also glorify parents' desperate belief that their children are destined for superstardom.  Two years ago there was a show hosted by former child star Danny Bonaduce (not exactly a poster boy for mental health) called "I Know My Kid Is a Star" and an even more recent incarnation titled, "My Kid Is Gonna Be Famous."  I tripped over these eccentricities while watching "The Soup" which satirizes talk and reality shows.  It showed a clip of a mom nagging her daughter to point her toe while bounding across the floor in some sort of dance move.  The mother was distressed that she couldn't get her daughter to point that toe, no matter what she said, as if pointing her toe would be the difference between obscurity and fame.  Unfortunately, the mom apparently missed the important big picture – her daughter couldn't dance, pointed toe or not.
 
Such is the plight of parenting.  We want success for our children.   So we look for glimmers of that success in everything they do, as soon as they do it.  If six year old Molly figures out how to dribble to the goal our pride opens up a vista where Molly scores the winning goal in the 2024 Olympics.  No matter that Molly also "excels" at blowing bubbles and climbing trees.  Once we focus on the future we begin to orchestrate that future supplanting fun with work.  Slowly, insidiously we become that mom harping over our own "pointed toe" situation.  Our anxiety that somehow our child will fall behind in the competitive scenario overrides our common sense.   In a world that offers up Justin Bieber, Brazilian soccer prodigies, and ten year old opera singers, it's difficult not to see the same potential in our own darlings.  And there are plenty of vultures willing to encourage that dream.

This fall a Colorado company released a kit that parents can purchase to test their child's DNA specifically for the ACTN3 gene that apparently affects speed and endurance.  When studying elite athletes a group of scientists in Australia noticed that those with great speed had the R variant of the gene and those with great endurance had the X variant.  In 2004 this test was made available in Australia and has now come to America.  For $149 a parent can buy the test, take a swab of their child's mouth, and in a few weeks discover which type of sport the child should pursue.  But a study by a team at the University of Wisconsin – La Crosse of the predictability of such a test determined that many elite athletes are actually missing both variants of the gene.  And no longitudinal study has yet to be done to see if what the test predicted proved to be true for those kids who took the test.  As one researcher at UW-LC suggested, a better test would be "Just line them up with their classmates for a race and see which ones are the fastest."  That's the common sense approach.

Expensive sport's development camps make tremendous claims about their ability to take your child from hum drum to spectacular all for a price requiring a second mortgage.  Their brochures sizzle with testimonials from past attendees who went on to win the World Series or Olympic Gold.  Every parent needs to approach those claims with a skeptical eye.  While many sport's development camps can certainly improve your child's strength, endurance, and skills, they can't sell different genes.  So much of success in any venture depends on variables over which few of us have control.  If your child appears on scale to top out at 5' 4" he or she will probably not be a basketball star.  Consider the camps for what they are, not for what you hope they will be.  They are places to improve as a player; they are not places to ensure your child's place in history.  For every camper who went on to have a Super Bowl ring, 1000 went on to settle for a class ring, and that exemplary participant probably would have achieved what he or she achieved with or without the camp.

The website Wiki-How has an article titled "How to Turn Your Child into a Soccer Star" (http://www.wikihow.com/Turn-Your-Child-Into-a-Soccer-Star).  The article is actually pretty good and really has nothing to do with turning your child into a star.  But the title certainly is provocative.  Gomestic.com had a great article (http://gomestic.com/family/does-your-child-have-an-athletes-mindset/) on your child's athletic mindset which the author, T. Edward, feels is the best predictor of a child's athletic future than anything else.  He argues that if a child isn't mentally involved in the sport both on and off the field, he or she probably isn't going to excel in that sport or possibly any sport.  He argues that parents ignore their child's mindset because they are caught up in the Pro Athlete Dream State (PADS), over assessing their child's athletic ability, blinded by their own ambition.  PADS parents confront coaches about playing time, criticize their children for the most minor of mistakes, and are easily disappointed by even good results.  PADS parents exist everywhere.  We see them on the sidelines coaching every move of their kids, taking on the referees when calls aren't going their way, and greeting their child after the game with an immediate assessment of what went wrong.  If we are honest, we would admit that we have all fallen prey to the PADS label at some point in our children's lives.  We need to be able to put that behind us and become supportive, accepting parents who don't need to validate our worth by our kids' achievements.

In "The Soup" clip, I found it delightful that the child, despite the constant carping, appeared to be enjoying her leaps, twists, and frolics.  She happily continued her dance moves without regard to form and embraced the wildness of her actions.  While mom wanted perfection, daughter achieved joy.  Fame, whatever that translates to, will be on her own terms. With that yardstick, all our kids will be famous.

 

Worth Watching

Susan Boyd

The most watched Super Bowl ever between the Pittsburg Steelers and that team from Wisconsin has entered the history books with 111 million television viewers plus those 450 dislocated ticket holders. With ostensibly one out of every three U.S. citizens tuned into the game, it shows not only the power of sports in our lives but also the power of excellent marketing, which makes the Super Bowl a must-see event, bordering on a national holiday. In contrast, 24 million U.S. viewers tuned in to see the World Cup final between Spain and Netherlands this past summer. That's well beneath Super Bowl numbers, but nonetheless a respectable audience. World-wide, the numbers were in the 28 billion (yes with a "B") range. Between the 2002 and 2006 World Cup U.S. viewership increased 38%. Still, the tradition of plopping down on the couch or bellying up to the bar on an autumn Sunday afternoon to watch an NFL match-up far overshadows any rush to see Liverpool vs. Arsenal.
           
Our kids may play soccer, but our heart still belongs to football, basketball, and baseball. It's difficult to rev up for a televised college soccer match the same way we get excited about watching Alabama take on Auburn in football. If we don't expect our kids to continue in soccer, then investing time to see a televised game seems unnecessary. So why watch soccer? Actually, good reasons abound.
           
If you are anything like most soccer parents, you don't have a lot of experience with soccer. Some parents, who themselves played youth soccer, have now become part of its exponential growth by encouraging their children to participate. But despite playing a few years as kids, most parents have little other soccer immersion. That's true with most sports. We got our expertise and passion for the sport, not by playing, but by watching. Therefore it makes sense that watching soccer games would give us all an education. Not only does it help us understand the rules, but it also gives us perspective on how much talent we should expect from our kids and how much talent they will need to develop to play at the higher levels. Watching soccer helps us parents with the context for the sport.  Just like we need to learn what the appropriate developmental mileposts are for our kids in life, we need to learn what those mileposts are for soccer. By becoming immersed in the sport, we learn the boundaries for our expectations. It might even help us relax when it comes to our kids. We can appreciate how good they really are without having unreal expectations of how good we think they should be.
           
Sharing a televised soccer game with our kids has the same effect that sharing any activity with our kids provides. They feel supported. When you validate soccer by watching games, you demonstrate your pride in their activity. You also set up that wonderful conspiratorial connection of having a special joint interest. Together you learn about players, teams, rivalries, and champions.  On May 28th the UEFA Champions League Final will be played at Wembley Stadium. Right now, teams are in the knock-out stage after enduring a long road through qualifying, play-offs and group stages which began last June. These games involve the top teams in Europe and the top players. The League itself carries almost as much prestige as the World Cup due to the caliber of the competition. Most cable and satellite carriers provide coverage of these games, which would be an interesting and educational couple of hours to share. Together you can develop team loyalties, make predictions on winners, and exercise your analytical skills while discussing the plays you see.
           
If your child wants to pursue soccer, it's important that he or she get immersed in the sport. There are cultural, athletic, and motivational aspects to the sport that have to be experienced. Not everyone has the financial resources to go watch an English Premier League or World Cup game live, but we can all watch a game on TV. Just as a kid who plays basketball benefits from watching skilled players compete on the court, a kid who loves soccer gains from watching as many matches as possible. Coaches often talk about kids needing to develop soccer brains, understanding the game well enough to see the field and anticipate positioning and plays. Most players around the world have the benefit of being immersed in soccer since it dominates the hearts, minds, and viewing schedules of fans. In the U.S. kids can go days without having any soccer exposure. Part of the U.S. becoming a force in international play will be the ability of our players to have that all-embracing soccer experience. For the moment, we need to depend on televised soccer to help fill the void.
           
I'm a soccer junkie now, although I didn't start out that way. As my kids continued their interest in the sport, I continued watching matches. I learned so much about the sport by watching games other than just those my kids played in. I learned how rough the sport becomes as they advanced in age and talent. I learned how passionate the fans can be. I learned to appreciate games that ended up 0-0 because I learned to understand the athleticism and team tactics behind holding onto that score. I learned to recognize Ronaldo from Cristiano Ronaldo. I learned to share conversations with my kids who talked trades, upsets, and championships in the world of soccer like some kids talk about cars. I learned that soccer can be a way for a family to bond. No matter what my kids do in the future when it comes to soccer, sharing some chips, guacamole, and an EPL match with my children creates some wonderful moments of family bonding.
 

Thoughts from "Vision"

Sam Snow

I could not have expressed these thoughts better myself. Here are comments from a youth coach on the stair-step approach to soccer for youth players from Horst Wein (a US Youth Soccer Workshop presenter in 2006 by the way) and the US Youth Soccer document "Vision". The last line is a question for you to contemplate.

Since the moment I first read Horst Wein's "Developing Youth Football Players" in 2007, he has been one of my biggest youth soccer coaching influences and inspirations.  My youth coaching philosophy is heavily "Horst Wein-ian" influenced.  He's helped to bolster my self-confidence and intelligence, and help me to put aside my ego, tap into my humility, and try to be the kind of youth coach who is perceptive enough of my youth players to recognize when I must be flexible and adapt, change, modify and experiment in order to attempt to meet their ever changing and unique needs.

I really liked your "Vision" article.  I'll share it with my team and forward it to my club's president and some of the other coaches I know.  It should be mandatory reading for every youth soccer coach and should be part of every coaching course/license/certificate curriculum.  The best coaches I've met and worked with live and work the "Vision".  The coach I try to be lives and works the "Vision".

It's a shame that some of those who run our youth soccer organizations and/or teach coaching courses all over the country, often give lip service to, or don't understand/believe or use the many important topics and concepts you cover in your article.  Their programs, players, and youth soccer in the U.S. suffer for their lip service and rubber stamping.

You may be familiar with the English FA's skills assessment program called "Soccerstar Challenge"   (http://www.fa-soccerstar.com/).   I like the utility of the individual tests for establishing a player's baseline and being able to show personal improvement through the season.  However, I think the "stars" comparison rating system of each individual's scores against the scores in the "Soccerstar Challenge" database is interesting but not very useful to me.

Too many children don't get the chance to develop or grow their potential for playing, and/or enjoying soccer because there are not enough "Vision" and "Horst Wein-ian" adults and coaches who can help them begin to realize this potential.

Could you be one of the coaches who can help them?

If you would like to receive a copy of the Vision document then just drop me a line and I'll be glad to send a copy to you.