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Parents Blog

Susan Boyd blogs on every Monday. A dedicated mother and wife, Susan offers a truly unique perspective into the world of a "Soccer Mom." 
Opinions expressed on the US Youth Soccer Blog are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the positions of US Youth Soccer.


It's About Having Fun

Susan Boyd

Youth soccer can be a difficult maze to negotiate. Right now under the United States Soccer Federation there are five youth programs: American Youth Soccer Organization (AYSO) founded in 1964 which has volunteer coaches and leagues all over the U.S. with a core predominately in Southern California, United States Youth Soccer Association (US Youth Soccer) founded in 1974 which is a mix of volunteer and paid coaches with both recreational and select programs, Soccer Association for Youth which is strictly recreational soccer and whose motto is "kid's having fun," US Club Soccer founded in 2000 which provides another venue for registration and for development, and finally the USSF Development Academy founded in 2007 which seeks to create competition among the top clubs in America at the U16 and U18 level which would serve as development for those players and opportunities for National Team coaches to scout for talent. Outside of the USSF umbrella are three other organizations: Soccer in the Streets (SITS) whose goal is to provide soccer and life training for kids at risk, YMCA, and Super Y League, a branch of United Soccer Leagues, which is a league of elite clubs whose purpose is to provide strong competition. And of course there are programs at schools, churches, and other youth venues which aren't under any national oversight.

This maze of youth soccer options often leaves parents bewildered and pressured. I don't think any other sport besides soccer has such an organized emphasis on development of players beginning at age five with an eye towards national team and professional team play at the end of the road. It's tough to just play soccer for the fun of it when much of the play emerges from programs that encourage commitment to constantly increasing levels of play. Yet recreational soccer remains one of the best programs for players to stretch their soccer muscles and exercise their interest in the game without the pressure of immediate or future success. 

When my oldest grandson was four, I enrolled him in our local Micro Soccer program. Both his parents worked, so it was an opportunity for him to get away from after-school care and play with a new set of friends. The largely teenage staff made the experience so much fun. Still kids themselves they romped with these three, four, and five year olds and even wrestled with them which I don't think is a soccer skill set. Keaton had a blast and although a bit intimidated at first, he jumped in and fully participated. He loved the opportunity to compete when there were races and to giggle and cavort when there was just play. Nevertheless some parents took exception to the program as not being structured enough – i.e. not really teaching them soccer. These parents already had their sights set on a select club and wanted their children to have a leg up on the competition. Since most select clubs use their youth recreational program as a feeder pool for the select teams at U11, parents were savvy enough to understand that they had to get their kids on the "right" recreational team. Since several select clubs have their U10 and even U9 teams play up at U11, select soccer can begin technically at age 8!

While my own sons eventually ended up on the select route of youth soccer, I don't regret keeping them out of a select club until they were U10. Those neighborhood teams they played on created so many fantastic memories without the pressure of succeeding. Robbie in fact didn't take to soccer until he was seven. His early years on his recreational teams were spent in the back field checking out the grass and wandering over to the sidelines to talk to his teammates who were on the bench. When the ball deflected to him from an opponent, Robbie would politely return it. Bryce on the other hand had a killer instinct and had to be restrained from using American football moves on the soccer field. He got plenty of invitations to join a select club, but he benefited by sticking with his recreational team for the first four years of soccer because he could be with his neighborhood buddies, ride to practice together, and enjoy the play. In fact the only reason he finally moved to a select club was because two of his best friends did. Once there, he got on a train that had only one route. It's important for parents to understand that commitment level and how ruthlessly players are booted off the train along the route.   Players need to be ready for the kind of cold-bloodedness that select programs can operate under.

Don't get seduced by the lure of early training. If your son or daughter expresses a real interest in continuing with soccer when he or she is 10 or 11 there's plenty of time to find a competitive recreational or select team. If they express an interest in a multitude of sports, they probably shouldn't do select sports until, as the name implies, they select that sport nearly exclusively, usually some time in middle school years. Soccer dovetails nicely at the youth ages with basketball and baseball with soccer games in the fall and in the early spring. But if players elect to be on a select team then they end up having the winter given over to indoor soccer and the summer over to tournaments. The scheduling crush ends up shortchanging teams. 

Find a recreational youth program that is fun, affordable, accessible, and outside the select soccer borders.   It's so great to see these little tykes in their size 2 soccer cleats and printed jerseys running likes ants across the fields, pig piling in front of the goal, keeping their balance and losing their balance, discussing big plays with their friends, being outdoors, and having something to look forward to each week that doesn't require discipline or pressure.   Whether kids do soccer with their church, with YMCA, with an organized club or with a community team, kids should play youth soccer for the fun of it.   A child should be laughing 80% of the time and so should you. 

While riding the select train all the way to the final station can have its own rewards, remember the realities of the ride: few will make it to the end, the cost to get there is tremendous monetarily, physically, and mentally, and the prize needs to be worth the journey. No one suffered from running around outdoors laughing – and that's where most soccer players will find their haven. Presently there are over 3 million players registered with US Youth Soccer, another 200,000 in AYSO, and probably another 100,000 or more in the other various youth soccer programs. There are around 50 men and women who are in serious contention for the 36 spots on the Men's and Women's Nationalb Teams. That's .0016% or 16/1,000,000.  

I like the odds for fun in youth soccer much better!

A Loss of Innocence

Susan Boyd

As parents we try hard to protect our children. Every new foray into independence by our sons and daughters matches equally with parental reluctance to let those tiny hands go. Despite their rush for adulthood, we recognize that our children still have that naivety and innocence we actually long to protect. We are well-aware that all too soon the hard facts of life will bring cynicism, sadness and weariness; so, we seek to extend childhood as long as possible even as we push the fledglings from the nest.

Therefore the tragedy at Northern Illinois University underscores how quickly our children can be thrust into the cruelty of the world even before they are completely armored for such an assault. I was going to write a blog about mini-soccer (also known as micro-soccer, lil kicks, etc.) for those players whose socks reach their hips and whose feet barely know how to stabilize their walk. Then NIU's community faced a few moments of horror that will stain their memories, their lives, their growth and their security forever.Those students are only a decade removed from the players they were in those first soccer games where they ran the wrong way or begged to be the goalkeeper or giggled so hard when they and their teammates fell into a pig pile. A decade will never be enough time to develop the perspective capable of absorbing and understanding what happened in their village. It's far too soon to be introduced so abruptly to the brutality of the world. It's far too soon to have to comfort others when you are unsure of what it all means. It's far too soon to be asked to give up your innocence.

I have a strong connection to NIU, so this incident hit me particularly hard. When I worked for US Youth Soccer Olympic Development Program, I had the privilege of visiting the campus two or three times a year for various ODP events. Region II held its Girls Regional Camp at NIU. Illinois, Wisconsin and Indiana ODP teams would scrimmage on the athletic fields, and Illinois held its summer pre-regional camp there. I have gotten to know NIU soccer coaches and players through these contacts. My son Robbie has been in communication with the coaching staff about their soccer program and sat in Cole Hall for an orientation. A friend of my boys attends NIU and sat huddled for an hour in the back of a classroom just steps from the tragedy not knowing what was going on outside. So I know the people involved in the community of 25,000. I know that this event touched everyone's life. The school is a beautiful campus nestled on the north edge of DeKalb in the middle of farming land. The pace is gentle, quiet and kind. The school is the hub of activity in DeKalb. Because I have a son in college right now, I feel a kinship with all the mothers who anxiously awaited word of their children on Valentine's Day.
My hulking 6'2" son still possesses an innocence which is belied by his confident swagger and his absolute conviction that he knows more than his parents. He still calls me Mommy and will phone in distress over his account being overdrawn or the bookstore being out of an important textbook. He still believes I can perform miracles in those circumstances where he finds himself in trouble or in need. He will suddenly come over to me while I write at the computer to give me a hug, which I know is as much for his needs as for mine. I also know that he is little different from any of his friends of the same age, away from home for the first time in college. So I can't imagine how convoluted and rocky the students at NIU now find their lives. They have friends dead or injured. They have faced danger and mortality. They have seen horror that children in a country like ours should never have to see. There is no miracle a mother can perform to take away that cruel trial by fire from any child who has experienced such tragedy. So I can understand the hopelessness and agony NIU parents are feeling right now.
When I was at the Final Four in December I had the opportunity to speak to the wife of an assistant coach at Virginia Tech. We were both waiting in the hotel lobby for our respective teams to show up. I asked her how the student body and faculty were coping after their own tragedy. She spoke with pride of their resiliency, not that they rebounded to the same normalcy that existed before a gunman killed and wounded their friends, but of their ability to rise above the horror, to understand how it had blanched every memory of their college life, and to forge the determination to not let the events dictate defeatism in their lives. "They grew up too fast," she said. And now a new group of students has had to navigate this indefensible passage from innocence to stark reality.
Friday morning, following the tragedy, The Today Show was interviewing two young men who were in the lecture hall and witnessed the gunmen's destruction. One of the boys spoke about seeing all the chaos, of not knowing if he should run into a building or stay outdoors and of wondering if there were snipers on the top of Cole Hall just waiting to take out students as they fled. He could not have possibly had those thoughts two hours earlier as he walked to class. He didn't look up to see if rifles were aimed in his direction, or wonder if someone around him might need medical assistance, or stand conflicted as to the relative safety of his position. For the rest of his life those questions and others will run through his mind and will taint how he regards the independence of his own children. 
While parents seek to protect within the parameters of encouraging their children to run ahead to the woods or leap over a fence or ride their wobbly bikes around the neighborhood, this student may oneday find himself clinging to his child because his knowledge of what the world can do is so much more horrific than mine. His final words to the reporter still haunt me, "I saw a girl on a stretcher with towels wrapped all over her head and tons of blood coming out. The EMT was saying, 'Stay with me,' and she was saying, 'I'm trying." These two children had their innocence and their trust stripped from them and as a parent I couldn't do anything to stop it.

So I will grieve for those who died, I will grieve for the students who were wounded, I will grieve for the families who will never be the same, I will grieve for the community whose eyes were seared by ugliness, I will grieve for the loss of innocence and I will grieve for us who frolicked in soccer matches, who cheered with pride, who pulled our children back from approaching traffic, who tested food to see if it was too hot for them to eat, who knew dangerous consequences but who assured our children it would all be OK, who set limits and then let our children test them, who breathed a sigh of relief every time they saw those bikes or cars round the corner for home, who didn't let their children see R-rated movies because they shouldn't be exposed to violence and sex, who loved well and safely and openly. I pray that all our children will be safe, even as I know that can't be possible. I pray for the people at NIU that they may find support, love, and healing.



Short- or Long-Term Solutions

Sam Snow

I spent the morning here on Presidents Day watching some good Under-18 and Under-16 matches. Overall the level of play is good, although there is still too much run and gun style of offense. In all I saw 15- and 17-year-olds play like…well like teenagers. There's nothing terribly insightful about that except that they play an awful lot like the teenagers of 15 years ago. Our style of offense over the last 15 years has settled into a linear game; lots of passes north/south or east/west. Straight line passes…not many diagonal passes or diagonal dribbles or diagonal off the ball runs.

Consequently, the defending tends to be one-on-one or recovery runs onto through balls. Not a whole lot of block defending or team defending tactics is being demonstrated. And all of this is from some of the best club teams in the country that I watched today. This is not to say that it was all high level kickball. A few matches, and a few moments in other matches, were good soccer. But why is that we are no more sophisticated in our skills or tactics than 15 years ago?

Why is it that now considerable effort is being focused on level 2 of the U.S. Soccer player development pyramid? Well certainly these players deserve the attention and effort being put into their development as future professional and national team players. This is fine as it helps strengthen the fabric of our game in the USA. Yet it seems to me to be a short-term solution to a long-term challenge. Trying to considerably improve the game of a 17-year-old may be a little too late in the player development timetable. Even for a 15-year-old the odds are beginning to lean towards what you have now in playing tendencies is what the player will have five years from now.

The energy and money should instead be poured into level 1 of the player development pyramid. These are the childhood and pubescent players. If we considerably improve their soccer environment then the odds improve for us to develop talented players. This will take time though to see the fruits of the labor. Ten years? Twenty years? A generation? This means the adults must be patient. That's quite a challenge for some and doesn't always fit into a political agenda. However the only way the USA will produce truly world class soccer players is with long-term player development. So the money and effort should go into raising the standard of coaching at the recreational level. Parent education on player development within a team sport must be delivered every season in every soccer park in the nation. If we are truly serious about competing internationally then get the best coaches we have working with preteen players now. When we improve the early soccer experiences of these young players then more of them will stay with soccer. If we reduce the drop-out rate then our number of participants increases and the odds then improve for us to produce more high caliber players.

Ask any house builder and they will tell you that the walls and roof are quite important but that the single most important part of the building is the foundation. With a solid foundation we will support our game for generations to come.

A Few Good Men and Women - College Recruiting

Susan Boyd

Note:  In this blog "you" means the player.

Being recruited by a college to play soccer really just has two components:  making sure coaches know you want to be seen and being seen by coaches.  However, as rudimentary as it appears, the process is anything but simple.  I've been through it once with Bryce and I'm now going through it with Robbie.  The learning curve escalates sharply, so hopefully I can pass on a few tidbits for achieving your own college dreams.

An important step to take before even moving ahead to being recruited is to get registered with the NCAA Eligibility Center (  Coaches will ask you if and when you registered.  Without NCAA approval no coach can put you on the team.  The NCAA provides a central location for gathering all your data (grades, test scores, and coursework) while also serving as the judge on eligibility to play in college.  Therefore, before you take any ACT or SAT tests, it's a good idea to be registered since you want those test scores sent to the NCAA.  There's a spot on your test registration form for putting in the NCAA as one of your "college" choices.  There's a one-time fee for registering, but there is also a way for lower income families to get the fee waived.  In addition, the NCAA ( is a great source of information on the recruiting process.  You can download a booklet of the rules for eligibility and for recruitment.

If you want certain schools to show interest in you, you'll need to show interest in them first.  Send emails to the coaches in August and September of your junior year.  Make the emails personal – in other words don't send out bulk emails.  Individual emails require more effort, but have a bigger payoff.  Use methods such as addressing the coach directly and then talking about the school and why it interests you:  I had a chance to visit your campus last May and thought the new student union was amazing// I want to study engineering and I see your school has one of the top programs// I loved the way the team never lost its cool against Wake Forest and managed to come back and tie.  Make sure the coach knows you want to go to University X and not just go anywhere that will take you.  Finally apprise the coach of your playing schedule – tournaments, showcases, high school state finals, etc.  Once you have a dialog going with the coach, don't be afraid to ask serious questions about the program, your place in the program, and your chances.  Remember also that in general the assistant coaches do the initial recruiting.  However, I think it's best to write to the head coach and let him or her decide who should be corresponding with you.  In some cases all the coaches may end up writing to you.  Take that as a huge compliment and a sign that the school is definitely interested in you as a player.
In general coaches can contact you by email and letter no earlier than September 1st of your junior year and by phone no earlier than July 1st between your junior and senior year.  However, you can call coaches as much as you want.  Although that seems intimidating, it really is a great way to indicate your interest in a program.  Plus the coaches can talk to you about how they see you fitting into their program which is valuable information as you begin to make your choices.  Coaches are also limited to the number of times they can speak to your parents.  This assures that they won't have to deal with "parent agents."  Coaches want to recruit the player and not the parent.  In fact if parents are too pushy, coaches see that as reluctance on the part of the player to really want to play at the college level.

You will need to make visits to the campuses of schools holding the most interest for you.  These visits are classified as unofficial – i.e. you made the choice to go visit – and official – the college invited you to visit.  Unless you are Bill Gates' son or daughter, you'll need to limit the unofficial visits due to the expense.  So you'll need to carefully consider the schools where you think you have the best chance of being accepted and getting recruited.  Coaches can't talk to you off campus until your senior year, so they love to get players to come to campus so that they can talk to you and your parents.  In addition visiting the campus gives you a chance to see if you feel you'll fit in.  Soccer is wonderful, but ultimately if you don't feel comfortable at the school with its social life and academics, you won't do well.

The biggest advice I can offer is to stay in contact with the coaches.  If they write to you and you don't write back, they wipe you off their lists and move on and the opportunity is gone.  If write for a while and then lapse, again the coaches may just move on.  They have a limited window of opportunity to pursue certain players and if they don't get enough nibbles, they move on to hungrier prey.  On the other hand, it's tough to stay on top of it if you have several coaches interested in you, so just make it a habit to take a hour on Sunday evening to send short emails to the coaches indicating you still have an interest.  Again keep the emails personal, but they don't need to be elaborate.  One or two quick lines let the coaches know that despite your busy schedule you have the time to write.  They'll  appreciate that.

Once you let coaches know you want to be seen, you'll need to get to the places where coaches can see you.  There are three methods: least efficient, possibly efficient, and very efficient.  Camps are the least efficient means for being seen by coaches both from a cost perspective and for the number of schools represented.   Most college programs offer camps throughout the winter, spring and summer as a means of seeing players and bringing in revenue to the program.  If you have a particular college you want to attend, camps offer the possibility of both getting in an unofficial visit to the campus and having the coaching staff of that university see you play.  But it comes with a price tag.  Resident camps cost around $550 for three or four days.  Day camps at local campuses that have a cost around $100 give you a quick taste of the program and the school.  As a selling point these camps may state that coaches from other schools will be present, but we are talking just a handful, compared to what you would get at a college showcase tournament.  So in general camps are not a very efficient means for getting seen.

I'll skip to the most efficient means because it helps set the stage for the possibly efficient method.  College showcase tournaments are the bread and butter of recruiters.  It's an opportunity for them to see the top teams in the country (and by logical extension the top players in the country) by traveling to one venue.  Recruiting budgets are small, so coaches need to be as efficient as the players in deciding where to go to recruit.  The downside for the player is that most of these tournaments use a ranking system to decide which teams get accepted.  Tournament committees will look at who got to state finals, regionals, and nationals, who won or came in second at other top tournaments, and at the overall club (can they get six teams from a club to qualify for entrance).  This leaves plenty of good teams and players out of the running.  Nevertheless, college showcases are the best place to be if you want coaches to see you.  So how do you get there?

First, when you tryout for a team at U15, U16, and U17 play ask the coaches, the club president, and the parents and players how serious they are about playing college soccer.  If a coach or a club isn't committed to getting players to the next level, you probably won't get the opportunity to go to a showcase.  If the players and their parents aren't committed to playing college soccer, then they will look at tournament choices purely on an economic basis, not on an advancement level.  Look at the club's website to see if they list the players who have moved on to college.  That gives you a good indication that they are serious.  So pick your club well!  Second once you get on a team, encourage the coach and team administrator to apply for the top tournaments.  Sometimes they are reluctant because they believe they won't be accepted.  In the end, it's no harm no foul as you'll get your money back if not accepted.  When I worked for US Youth Soccer Olympic Development Program I often got calls from very prestigious tournaments asking if I knew of any good U16 or U17 teams that they could add because they wanted to make an additional bracket.  So don't sell your team short – apply even if you don't think you have a chance.  Third, work hard to win those accolades that will get your team in these tournaments.

All is not lost if you can't get into the top national tournaments.  There are plenty of local tournaments that attract local college coaches.  You may not be seen by a California school if you live in Wisconsin, but you will certainly be seen by coaches from Wisconsin, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, and Minnesota.  Lists of tournaments can be found on the internet through state soccer organizations and tournament guides.  Some of the top tournaments to consider are Dallas Cup, Blue Chip, Disney College Showcase, Surf Cup and the Final Four.  But every state offers strong showcase tournaments such as Metro FC, John Talley, KISS, and others.  So check websites and tournament listings to find tournaments that your team can qualify for and enter.

Once you get into a tournament, go to the tournament website and see which colleges have indicated they are sending representatives.  Then write to the colleges you have an interest in.  It doesn't hurt to submit a copy of your unofficial transcript in the email and list any test scores if you have taken the ACT or SAT.  Whatever you do, don't inflate your grade point or test scores in hopes of getting a coach to see you.  Coaches have strict standards they have to meet with the admission's department and no coach appreciates having his or her time wasted by a player they have no hope of admitting.  Likewise, only write to those schools in which you have a serious interest.  While you may hate to cut off an opportunity, if you know a school doesn't have your major or is too big or too small for your tastes, then don't "tease" them.  The pleasant surprise is that you may get several schools that express an interest in you that you didn't even write to.  Remember your teammates are asking coaches to come watch them, which means the coaches are watching you as well.  My son Bryce ended up at a school he never contacted to come watch him!  In addition prepare a profile sheet for the players on your team that the team administrator can hand out to the coaches on the sidelines.  Don't do a booklet as coaches can't use that as efficiently.  Instead, prepare a sheet landscape mode that lists the uniform number, player name, position, address, phone number, email, GPA, and test scores.  Leave a column at the end where the coach can make notes.  Anything else the coach needs he or she will get directly from the player once they contact him or her.

Now there is also a possibly efficient means of being seen.  Since you may not have the opportunity to play on a team that gets selected to these college showcases, you can still get to these tournaments as a guest player.  Most of the major tournament websites offer a link where you can register as a guest player or where you can contact teams that have asked for guest players.  Usually the guest player form asks for things like position, years played, and some statistics.  Don't oversell yourself.  Coaches are leery of a "too good to be true" player.  Be honest and forthright, but don't brag.  The upside of being a guest player is that you get to the major tournaments.  The downside of being a guest player is that you are not guaranteed any playing time at all.  Therefore give the coach a reason to put you in.  Let the coach know which college coaches have indicated that they will watch you play.  That means that the team players will also be seen by these coaches, so it's to the team's advantage to give you some playing time.  In addition be honest with the team coach about your intentions.  You want to play to be seen to be recruited.  Don't be afraid to ask the coach about playing time.  Most college showcase tournaments are simply round-robin festivals without winners which allow coaches to play everyone without worrying about "success."  So that makes it more likely that even guest players would get playing time.  Just remember to also ask your own club coach for permission to apply to be a guest player.  In some cases guest teams may be affiliated with national soccer organizations for which you do not have a pass.  In those cases the guest team administrator can usually get you hooked up with a pass pretty quickly.  Faxes and the internet certainly help to speed up the process.

Just remember that college coaches need to recruit the best players they can to their teams, but that doesn't mean that they won't have to look deeply into the ranks of teams to find those players.  You need to be sure to make yourself evident to the coaches.  This isn't the time to be shy or modest.  It's about selling yourself.  Coaches are looking for players who have the confidence to make the sale.  So get out there and promote yourself!